In this episode, Mariëlle and Lucinda talk about establishing boundaries that allow them to write regularly.
Boundaries are not fixed and need to adapt and change, sometimes becoming the new normal. Boundaries are more membrane-like than a drawbridge where aspects of life can pass through while others need keeping out. Only you can decide what to allow inside and what to push out.
Anger can signify that someone is attempting to compromise one of your boundaries and demonstrates why it is vital to be conscious about where your boundaries lie. A strong sense of self-awareness supports conscious choice rather than mindless reaction.
Boundaries are vital for any writer, but no writer is an island. We all have things we have or want to do beyond our writing.
Set your timer to ten minutes, grab your journal or open a new document on your computer, and make a list. What have you allowed to distract you from writing over the past week? Month? Year?
Take a good look at last week’s list of things you’ve allowed to distract you from writing. Of all the distractions you’ve written down, which are perfectly acceptable to you? Which aren’t?
Now write a new list only containing the distractions you’re more than willing to accommodate in your life. Pin it to the wall or keep it in another place where you get to see it regularly.