Episode 77 – Understanding Your Beliefs about Writing

Lucinda and Mariëlle examine their own beliefs about writing by completing the exercise in the previous episode. They consider which of their beliefs are the most negative before considering which most interfere with their writing life. They invite you to do the same.

For each belief, write down the answers to the following questions:

  • How has this belief limited me in my writing?
  • How did I get to believe this? Did I ever choose to believe it, or is it someone else’s belief, which I have incorporated as my own? When did I start believing this, and why? 
  • How has having this belief served me? What did I gain from having this belief? What have I been able to avoid by not addressing this belief sooner? 
  • What would be different in my life if I held a different belief about writing? 
  • Am I ready to change it and replace it with a different belief?
  • Who would I be if I didn’t have this belief about writing? 


Episode 76 – Introduction to Self-Sabotage

Episode 76 introduces a series about self-sabotage, which appears to plague most humans. It has many faces, and Mariëlle and Lucinda share theirs in the following episodes. First, they take a closer look at their limiting beliefs. What do they mean to the individual? How do they impact writing lives?

 “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.” We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.’

(Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of A COURSE IN MIRACLES, pp. 190–191).Mariëlle gives her coaching clients an exercise when they are struggling with limiting beliefs. It is available as part of the, Get Out of Your Own Way Starter Kit, which is available on subscribing to Mariëlle’s newsletter.

Step 1: Uncovering your beliefs about writing

The first step is to write down every belief you have about writing. Grab a notebook, print this page, or open a new document on your computer. Set your timer to fifteen minutes, and start with: ‘Something I believe about writing is….’

Write down whatever comes up. Don’t think about it too much. Just let your thoughts flow onto the paper or screen. Even if the next thought contradicts one of the other beliefs you’ve already written down or seems too small to have an impact on your life. Try not to judge or censor any of your beliefs, and don’t argue with them either.

Adapted from Anodea Judith and Lion Goodman’s book. Creating on Purpose: The Spiritual Technology of Manifesting through the Chakras.

Episode 75 – Structuring Your Time

Applying structure to your time is not just about writing. It is about ensuring that you get everything done. It is about looking at the bigger picture of what you want to achieve and making it happen. Anything worthwhile requires a level of commitment, and writing is no different. However, the process is not set in stone. It is dynamic and constantly changing.

It is not easy, and even the most successful writers struggle sometimes.

It can be hard to accept that you are allowed to do something just for yourself, and you do not need to become a successful author to say, ‘this is my writing time.’

Mariëlle and Lucinda consider ways of using habits to get writing done.

On a scale of 1 to 10, with one being chaos and ten being getting everything done that you want, where do you score structuring your time?

For many writers, the act of writing is like coming home to themselves. It connects them to their core and feeds their souls, yet it is hard to set apart and prioritise our writing time.

This week try to prioritise your writing over everything else you’ve got going on, even if it means getting a mere 5 minutes of writing done before the rest of your life beckons. Make it your number one priority and at the end of the week, reflect on how hard or easy was it to prioritise your writing time. How did you feel throughout the week, and how are you feeling about it now?